How To Build a Positive Attitude-

Have you noticed when you go to a Borders, a Barnes & Noble, or any bookstore that there will be a whole section dedicated to the Self-Help category?
When people, businesses, churches, civic groups call me about doing a presentation almost every time the need is, "come in and motivate us...energize us."  If you've ever been a public speaker that's a daunting task!  You show up at an event, you're introduced, followed by polite applause, and there they are...a group of people you've been asked to fire up.  From an outside appearance   they remind me of an old saying my grandmother used..."death warmed over".
Having been a basketball coach in my lifetime, I know how to give that pre-game speech that motivates a team, gets the adrenalin flowing, and has the team looking for a wall to run through.  Trouble is two hours later, win or lose, that booster shot has worn off.
So I've come to believe and teach groups I speak to that its important to learn to build a positive attitude that will serve them day to day.  There are no Five-Hour energy drinks for motivation.  It comes by building a positive attitude that will serve you day in and day out.
So here are the steps you can use to build a positive attitude and will show greater returns with your everyday motivation for living your life.
1.  Forgive  The basic element towards building a positive attitude is to learn to forgive.  This action is more for your own good rather than anybody elses.  Remember, if you hold a grudge against someone, it hardly bothers that person...it will just harm you.
2. Substitute Negative Thoughts  Force yourself in the beginning to think positive about anything that you thought negative about.  Do not worry about how the positive thought will actually become a reality.
3. Be Kind to Yourself  In the world around us, there are many things which cause us anxiety, tension and make us worry.  We should not make ourselves the reason of our anxiety.
4. Think About The Worse That Could Happen  Negative thoughts have already done this for us.  Remember the worst thing that could happen, realize the feeling to fail and then overcome it.  Do everything in your power to make sure that it does not become a reality.
5. Look at Things From a Third Person Point of View  This is the most important step.  Try looking from a third person point of view.  OR try to look at the problem as if it was someone else's.  Most of the times you will realize that the problem is not as big as it seems.
6. Perspective  Try to think of the people who have had much bigger problems.  There are many people in this world who do not get to choose a good life for themselves.  The very fact that you are reading this blog on a computer places you far above many other people on this planet.


"Believe you can, and you can.  Belief is one of the most powerful of all problem dissolvers.  When you believe that a difficulty can be overcome, you are more than halfway to victory over it already."  Norman Vincent Peale


"Start treating yourself as if you're the most important asset you'll ever have.  After all, aren't you?"  


"Every individual human being born on this earth has the capacity to become a unique and special person, unlike any who has ever existed before or will ever exist again."
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross