Wow Walmart has all their Christmas trees and aisles set up. UGH! Already? Really? OK let's call a timeout on 2011. How is your year going so far? It's good from time to time to review how things are going. So I have four valuable questions to ask yourself as you track the year.
1. How can I give value in this situation? This is a great way to improve your relationships and interactions. Four awesome reasons to give value in your everyday are:
*It makes you feel awesome
*You tend to get what you give
*It makes your life a whole lot more fun
*It makes it easier to start start new relationships and improve old ones.
What value can you give in a situation/to another person?
2. Would I rather be right or be happy? Wow what a question.
Right in this question means the need to judge, the need to be right while interacting with other people. It's not just about the guy who can't be wrong in a discussion though.
It's about the thought that you don't always have to be against people or things. You don't have to exist in a "me against the world" or "me against someone" head space. You can just relax, be cool and be with people instead of being against them in some subtle or not so subtle ways.
Feeling like you are right can bring some pleasure. But beyond that there is a lot more connection, happiness and positivity to be found.
3. What is the mot important thing I can do right now? If you are lost in what you do next in your day, your week or life, ask yourself this question. The answer might not always be what you want to hear because the most important thing is often one of the harder things you want to do too. But it can help you to check your priorities and stop you from getting lost in busy work and instead start tracking the really big stuff that will improve your life in any area in the long run.
4. What do I think is the right thing to do? One of the hardest things to do in life is to do the right thing. What you think is the right thing. Not what your friends, family, teachers, boss and society thinks is the right thing. What is the right thing? Here are three reasons to do the right thing:
*You tend to get what you give. By doing the right thing you tend to get the same things back. Give value to people, help them and they will often want to help you and give you value in some form. Do the right thing, put in extra effort and you get good stuff back.
*To raise your self-esteem. When you don't do the right thing you are not only sending out signals out into your world. You are also sending signals to yourself. When you don't do the right thing you don't feel good about yourself. To not do the right thing is a bit like punching yourself in the stomach.
*To avoid self-sabotage. A powerful side effect of not doing the right thing is that you give yourself a lack of deservedness. By doing the right thing you can raise your level of self-esteem and feel like a person who deserves his/her success.
Saturday, October 8, 2011
Saturday, October 1, 2011
CHILL OUT!
The time to relax is when you don't have time for it. Let me share with you my favorite tips to minimize stress and live more relaxed. I hope you find something helpful here, even if it's just a reminder of ways to relax that you had forgotten.
1. Accept the situation. You may be in a stressful situation and think to yourself that this shouldn't be but the incident has already arisen. So to decrease the stress you can accept the situation and deal with it rather than fight it.
2. Take many things less seriously. Taking things or yourself overly serious adds alot of unnecessary negativity and stress in your life. A minor situation may be blown up to a major one in your mind. Learn to lighten up a bit and life becomes more fun and you realize that you get great results even if you aren't super-serious about everything.
3. Decrease or put a stop to negative relationships. If someone is making you more stressed or creates a lot of negativity in your life you may want to consider decreasing the amount of time you spend with that person.
Some people almost seem to like to dwell in negativity.
4. Just move slower. If you slow down how you walk or how you move your body you can often start to feel less stressed. A stressed mind tends to run in circles a lot of the time.
5. Exercise. A simple and time-tested way to decrease inner tension is to exercise. This is one solution that works most consistently for people.
6. Find five things you can be grateful for right now. Being grateful and appreciative in your life is one of the most effective ways to turn a negative emotional state to a more positive one. So find a few things you are grateful for right now! What's the first thing you think of?
7. Look for solutions. When faced with a challenge that can cause stress, try to direct your focus to solutions rather than to dwell on the problem for too long. Dwelling only causes more stress and makes your mind less open to finding a solution.
8. Be early. just be 10 or 15 minutes early for meetings, etc. This very simple tip can cut down on stress quite a bite.
9. Do just one thing at a time when you're in a stressful period. Simple tasking and focusing on doing just one thing at a time not only decreases stress but from my experience gets things done a whole lot quicker.
10. Talk to people around you about it that you respect. Perhaps they can offer you advice or just lend an ear and some support. Just telling someone about something can often bring relieve.
1. Accept the situation. You may be in a stressful situation and think to yourself that this shouldn't be but the incident has already arisen. So to decrease the stress you can accept the situation and deal with it rather than fight it.
2. Take many things less seriously. Taking things or yourself overly serious adds alot of unnecessary negativity and stress in your life. A minor situation may be blown up to a major one in your mind. Learn to lighten up a bit and life becomes more fun and you realize that you get great results even if you aren't super-serious about everything.
3. Decrease or put a stop to negative relationships. If someone is making you more stressed or creates a lot of negativity in your life you may want to consider decreasing the amount of time you spend with that person.
Some people almost seem to like to dwell in negativity.
4. Just move slower. If you slow down how you walk or how you move your body you can often start to feel less stressed. A stressed mind tends to run in circles a lot of the time.
5. Exercise. A simple and time-tested way to decrease inner tension is to exercise. This is one solution that works most consistently for people.
6. Find five things you can be grateful for right now. Being grateful and appreciative in your life is one of the most effective ways to turn a negative emotional state to a more positive one. So find a few things you are grateful for right now! What's the first thing you think of?
7. Look for solutions. When faced with a challenge that can cause stress, try to direct your focus to solutions rather than to dwell on the problem for too long. Dwelling only causes more stress and makes your mind less open to finding a solution.
8. Be early. just be 10 or 15 minutes early for meetings, etc. This very simple tip can cut down on stress quite a bite.
9. Do just one thing at a time when you're in a stressful period. Simple tasking and focusing on doing just one thing at a time not only decreases stress but from my experience gets things done a whole lot quicker.
10. Talk to people around you about it that you respect. Perhaps they can offer you advice or just lend an ear and some support. Just telling someone about something can often bring relieve.
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