Timeout!

Wow Walmart has all their Christmas trees and aisles set up.  UGH!  Already?  Really?  OK let's call a timeout on 2011.  How is your year going so far?  It's good from time to time to review how things are going.  So I have four valuable questions to ask yourself as you track the year.

1.  How can I give value in this situation?  This is a great way to improve your relationships and interactions.  Four awesome reasons to give value in your everyday are:
*It makes you feel awesome
*You tend to get what you give
*It makes your life a whole lot more fun
*It makes it easier to start start new relationships and improve old ones.
What value can you give in a situation/to another person?

2.  Would I rather be right or be happy?  Wow what a question.
Right in this question means the need to judge, the need to be right while interacting with other people.  It's not   just about the guy who can't be wrong in a discussion though.
It's about the thought that you don't always have to be against people or things.  You don't have to exist in a "me against the world" or "me against someone" head space.  You can just relax, be cool and be with people instead of being against them in some subtle or not so subtle ways.

Feeling like you are right can bring some pleasure.  But beyond that there is a lot more connection, happiness and positivity to be found.

3.  What is the mot important thing I can do right now?  If you are lost in what you do next in your day, your week or life, ask yourself this question.  The answer might not always be what you want to hear because the most important thing is often one of the harder things you want to do too.  But it can help you to check your priorities and stop you from getting lost in busy work and instead start tracking the really big stuff that will improve your life in any area in the long run.

4.  What do I think is the right thing to do?  One of the hardest things to do in life is to do the right thing.  What you think is the right thing.  Not what your friends, family, teachers, boss and society thinks is the right thing.  What is the right thing?  Here are three reasons to do the right thing:
*You tend to get what you give.  By doing the right thing you tend to get the same things back.  Give value to people, help them and they will often want to help you and give you value in some form.  Do the right thing, put in extra effort and you get good stuff back.
*To raise your self-esteem.  When you don't do the right thing you are not only sending out signals out into your world.  You are also sending signals to yourself.  When you don't do the right thing you don't feel good about yourself.  To not do the right thing is a bit like punching yourself in the stomach.
*To avoid self-sabotage.  A powerful side effect of not doing the right thing is that you give yourself a lack of deservedness.  By doing the right thing you can raise your level of self-esteem and feel like a person who deserves his/her success.